Online Sex & Relationship Coaching
Find the confidence to stand up for yourself, explore dating with ease, and get comfortable with your kinks.
Who I Work With:
- Queer performers, kink-curious folks, and LGBTQIA+ & neurodivergent peeps
- Individuals, couples, and poly groups eager to explore intimacy
- Anyone wanting sex-positive coaching with a confident, sassy (yet very supportive) professional
My Approach:
- Grounded in kink-positive, body-affirming coaching
- Blend of relationship expertise with performer-level insight
- Emphasis on safety, consent, and authenticity
- Certified coach, ex-evangelical, recovering shame addict, with lived experience in sexual healing
š What I Offer
Whether you're just beginning to explore or already deep in your kink journey, my coaching is tailored to your unique needs, boundaries, and desires.
š„ Hands-On or Guided Demonstration
Some of us learn best by seeing, feeling, or doingāand that's celebrated here. I offer coaching that includes:
- Literal demonstrations (solo or with you, depending on context and consent)
- Hands-on instruction to support your somatic and sexual learning
- Visual and experiential techniques for folks who donāt thrive with talk-only approaches
š§ Neurodivergent-Affirming, Multi-Style Coaching
I adapt to your brain and bodyāespecially for neurodivergent clients who need a coaching style that isnāt cookie-cutter. This might include:
- Clear structure and visual aids
- Collaborative scripting or roleplay
- Movement-based or sensory approaches
- Gentle pace, clear consent check-ins, and optional repetition
š¤ Kink-Positive Specialties
I bring deep lived and professional experience in a wide range of practices, including:
- Edging and orgasm control
- Urethral sounding
- Fisting (giving/receiving)
- BDSM (from basic power play to deep dominance/submission dynamics)
- Aftercare, drop management, and emotional safety in play
Whether youāre exploring solo, with a partner, or as a performer wanting to show up more confidently in your body and boundaries, I create a space where your sexuality is welcomed, affirmed, and celebrated.
Why Work With Me?
- Experience: Iām a certified coach with professional training
- Sex-Positive Expertise: From kissing to fisting, I hold space for all your desiresāno shame, no judgment
- Vulnerability: I bring my same vulnerable self you've gotten to know online
- Badass: We prioritize boundary-setting, and authenticity in coaching
- Informed Safety: I've worked with many coaches and therapists, a few great ones, most of them lousy, and a few who were down right awful. Our sessions will be grounded in trust, consent, and empowerment.
How It Works
Step 1:Free First-Date Call
We connect to see if we're a comfortable match, and establish where you want to go.
Step 2: Personalized Coaching Plan
Whether you want to focus on dating, building your confidence, or trying out a kink for the first time, there's no one-size-fits-all.
Step 3: Ongoing Sessions
Weekly 1-on-1 confidential sessions with structured tools, personalized practices, somatic and mental-health guidance tailored to your goals.
Step 4: Track Your Evolution
Checkpoints, and honest feedback, so you make sure you're seeing growth, not just talking about it.
Who's This For?
- š¶ļø Kink-curious individuals ready for sex-positive, guided exploration
- š LGBTQIA+ performers who want intimacy, confidence, and safety on and off-stage
- š Couples or poly networks seeking to build trust while exploring together
- ā¤ļøāš„ Folks looking to reclaim sexual power and navigate pleasure with integrity
Testimonials
"Alex helped me build the courage to be who I truly am." ā Brian
"In just three months, Iāve learned to explore and embrace my kinks." ā Josh
"One of the best decisions of my life." ā Victoria
"Alex makes the hard work funāand serves it up with sass!" ā Diane
Safety & Consent Promise
Every sessionāwhether edging, sounding, or relationship-basedāis rooted in informed consent, trauma-sensitivity, and absolute confidentiality. Your boundaries are the blueprint of our work.
Ready to Get Started?
- Book your free āFirst Dateā call to share your vision.
- We'll agree on a personalized plan.
- Invest in coaching sessions (a pay-what-supports-you sliding scale is available).
