MBS

The Wildfire

You feel it in your body and you let it show, loud and unfiltered, in bed and out. You're magnetic, but sometimes the people you attract want the fire and not the person underneath it.

Your pattern

You feel it in your body and you let it show, fully, loudly, no filter.

Strength: you're magnetic, and you give other people permission to stop being so filtered too. They feel like they can be authentically themselves around you.

Blind spot: sometimes the ones you attract just want the fire and don't stick around when it burns out.

Kinks you might enjoy

  • Exhibitionism (consensual, boundaried): gives the show an intentional container, so being fully seen doesn't have to spill everywhere all the time. It can be a choice, and a fun one.

  • Primal / rough play: matches the raw, embodied energy you're already carrying, with a partner who can actually keep pace.

  • Aftercare heavy scenes: built in, unhurried care after sex addresses the exact wound of being wanted for the fire and not the person, someone sticking around once the sex is over to cuddle or hang out.

I'm an ex-evangelical turned sex coach.

I grew up with a lot of shame & fear around sex, and spent years [with support!] figuring out how to get out of my own head so I could enjoy myself in bed. 9 years and hundreds of clients later, I continue to use my own experiences and professional training in the place we all feel most vulnerable: our sex lives.

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What working with me looks like

I'm interested in what's underneath the fire, not just the fire itself, and I'm not going anywhere once the intensity settles. This work isn't about turning the volume down. It's about finding out what it's like to be fully seen by someone who stays curious about you specifically, long after the performance would normally end.

If you're ready to find out who sticks around once the fire settles, let's start there. Book your intro call below.

Here’s what my clients say…

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Alex helped me build the courage to be who I truly am.
Brian
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In just three months, I’ve learned to explore and embrace my kinks.
Josh
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One of the best decisions of my life.
Victoria
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Alex makes the hard work fun and serves it up with sass!
Diane
Start your journey!

It’s not talk therapy or a curriculum. Sessions are built on somatic coaching, meaning we work with your mind AND body. Inner-child work so the part of you that believes you’re “too much” or “not enough” get understood. Optional hands-on or guided demonstrations so you can actually practice and not just talk about it.

All with an approach that adjusts to you instead of the other way around.

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How coaching works

  • My PCC credential from the International Coaching Federation is one of the most rigorous in the industry. It requires verified training hours, mentoring, and an independent performance evaluation.

  • My Cuddlist, Cuddle Therapy certification trains practitioners in consensual, professional, trauma informed, non-sexual touch, a powerful tool for building body safety, trust, and nervous system regulation.

  • I’ve passed several verified trainings in neurodivergence, ADHD, Autism, and Anxiety. I understand how attention, sensory processing, and anxiety can shape the way you experience intimacy and relationships, and how to work with these parts of you, instead of against them.

  • Somatic coaching means we work with your nervous system, not just your thoughts. Connecting with your body is essential to finding reliable, lasting change for issues like tightness, arousal problems, and freezing.

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Safety & Consent Promise

Every session (whether we’re working on exploring a kink or building relationship skills) is rooted in informed consent, trauma-sensitivity, and absolute confidentiality. Your boundaries are foundational to our work.

This is the part where you stop reading and start changing 👏

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Alex Gay with curly hair, wearing sunglasses with orange reflection, sticking out his tongue and looking at the camera. He is looking over the top of the sunglasses and appears to be shirtless, with a tattoo visible on his shoulder.

  1. Book your free “First Date” call (aka consultation) to get to know each other.

  2. We'll agree on a personalized plan.

  3. Invest in coaching sessions (a pay-what-supports-you sliding scale is available).

Click here to book our "first date"

At this point just book a damn call. You’ve read this far, might as well see if it’s a good fit 😉