Sex-Positive & Kink-Affirming Coaching for LGBTQIA+ and Neurodivergent Peeps like you

Develop the confidence to stand up for yourself, explore dating with ease, and get comfortable with your kinks.

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Who I Work With:

  • Queer performers, kink-curious folks, and LGBTQIA+ & neurodivergent peeps

  • Individuals, couples, and poly groups eager to explore intimacy

  • Anyone wanting sex-positive coaching with a confident, sassy (yet very supportive) professional

My Approach:

  • Grounded in kink-positive, body-affirming coaching

  • Blend of relationship expertise with performer-level insight

  • Emphasis on safety, consent, and authenticity

  • Certified coach, ex-evangelical, recovering shame addict, with lived experience in sexual healing

confidently express yourself

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🌈 What I Offer

Whether you're just beginning to explore or already deep in your kink journey, my coaching is tailored to your unique needs, boundaries, and desires.

🔥 Hands-On or Guided Demonstration

Some of us learn best by seeing, feeling, or doing—and that's celebrated here. I offer coaching that includes:

  • Literal demonstrations (solo or with you, depending on context and consent)

  • Hands-on instruction to support your somatic and sexual learning

  • Visual and experiential techniques for folks who don’t thrive with talk-only approaches

🧠 Neurodivergent-Affirming, Multi-Style Coaching

I adapt to your brain and body—especially for neurodivergent clients who need a coaching style that isn’t cookie-cutter. This might include:

  • Clear structure and visual aids

  • Collaborative scripting or roleplay

  • Movement-based or sensory approaches

  • Gentle pace, clear consent check-ins, and optional repetition

🖤 Kink-Positive Specialties

I bring deep lived and professional experience in a wide range of practices, including:

  • Edging and orgasm control

  • Urethral sounding

  • Fisting (giving/receiving)

  • BDSM (from basic power play to deep dominance/submission dynamics)

  • Aftercare, drop management, and emotional safety in play

Whether you’re exploring solo, with a partner, or as a performer wanting to show up more confidently in your body and boundaries, I create a space where your sexuality is welcomed, affirmed, and celebrated.

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Why Work With Me?

  • Experience: I’m a certified coach with professional training

  • Sex-Positive Expertise: From kissing to fisting, I hold space for all your desires—no shame, no judgment

  • Vulnerability: I bring my same vulnerable self you've gotten to know online

  • Badass: We prioritize boundary-setting, and authenticity in coaching

  • Informed Safety: I've worked with many coaches and therapists, a few great ones, most of them lousy, and a few who were down right awful. Our sessions will be grounded in trust, consent, and empowerment.

How It Works

Step 1: Free First-Date Call

We connect to see if we're a comfortable match, and establish where you want to go.

Step 2: Personalized Coaching Plan

Whether you want to focus on dating, building your confidence, or trying out a kink for the first time, there's no one-size-fits-all.

Step 3: Ongoing Sessions

Weekly 1-on-1 confidential sessions with structured tools, personalized practices, somatic and mental-health guidance tailored to your goals.

Step 4: Track Your Evolution

Checkpoints, and honest feedback, so you make sure you're seeing growth, not just talking about it.

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Who's This For?

  • 🌶️ Kink-curious individuals ready for sex-positive, guided exploration

  • 🌟 LGBTQIA+ performers who want intimacy, confidence, and safety on and off-stage

  • 💞 Couples or poly networks seeking to build trust while exploring together

  • ❤️‍🔥 Folks looking to reclaim sexual power and navigate pleasure with integrity

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Alex helped me build the courage to be who I truly am.
Brian
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In just three months, I’ve learned to explore and embrace my kinks.
Josh
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One of the best decisions of my life.
Victoria
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Alex makes the hard work fun and serves it up with sass!
Diane
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Safety & Consent Promise

Every session—whether edging, sounding, or relationship-based—is rooted in informed consent, trauma-sensitivity, and absolute confidentiality. Your boundaries are the blueprint of our work.

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Ready to Get Started?

  1. Book your free “First Date” call to get to know each other.

  2. We'll agree on a personalized plan.

  3. Invest in coaching sessions (a pay-what-supports-you sliding scale is available).